Smart parents, different children
Parents treat their children nothing more than the situation: one is to manage everything, to do a lot of things, but the results are not good; the second is to ignore everything, do nothing, let it go, let alone, and the result isNot good; the third is to manage but not fully manage, not much, but all hit the point, the child grows smoothly.
Outstanding parents have always chosen to “do something and do nothing”, more specifically, only do three things.
First thing: Cultivate good parent-child relationships. Good relationships are better than many educations.
When parents have a good relationship with their children, the education of their children is easy to succeed; when they are not good with their children, their education is easy to fail.
The key to establishing a good parent-child relationship lies in “positioning”: 1. Improper “judges” and learning to be “lawyers” Some parents can’t wait to become “judges” when they see that their children have problems. This is very dangerous.
The inner world of a child is rich and colorful. Parents must actively influence and educate their children, and they cannot talk about it unless they understand their inner world.
The first key to understanding children is to protect their self-esteem, protect their rights, and become their trusted and respected friends.
That is, parents treat their children like “lawyers” treat their uniforms, understand their inner needs, and always take the sole role of safeguarding their legal rights.
2. Improper “referee”, learn to be “cheerleader” in the arena of life, children can only work hard.
Parents cannot substitute for their children, nor should they make their own claims to be “referees”. Instead, they should give their children the power to maintain a good competitive state, that is, the “cheerleaders”.
This can help children build self-confidence, which is the core task of family education.
Parents who are children’s “cheerleaders” must not only be good at discovering and praising children, but also guide children to face failures correctly and be children’s comrades before frustration.
3. Improper “tamer trainer”. Children who learn to be “mirrors” can overcome themselves only by knowing themselves, but they usually only rely on feedback from others to know themselves. At this time, the role of parents’ “feedback”, that is, the role of mirrors is very importantAlready.
Without being a “tamer trainer”, learning to be a “mirror” can help children improve their self-awareness, and they can communicate with parents without fearing the “authority” of their parents.
Education is three points and seven points.
“Wait a minute” is useful.
For example, we are stung by mosquitoes. Regardless of it, it will soon be okay. If we always scratch, it will take a long time.
The reason is that the human body has a certain self-healing function. Being bitten by a mosquito will quickly heal itself, and the application of external force will only be counterproductive.
Education is the same.
Stop and wait, give your child the opportunity to talk, communicate effectively with your child, and solve the problem without education.
The second thing: Cultivate the child’s good habits and habits determine the fate of the child, there is nothing more important than habit formation.
If parents do not attach importance to the cultivation of their children’s good habits, they must bury their children’s good future.
1.Education begins with the cultivation of habits. It is a lifetime education.
Intellectual education is a good thinking habit, moral education is a small behavior habit, and quality education is more reflected in the small behavior of people.
Numerous facts prove that habit is a tenacious force that can dominate a person’s life.
Everything for children begins with habit development.
2. The habit of developing a habit that is not a day’s work is a big problem and a great wisdom.
The development of good habits is by no means a day’s work. Its main principles are: low starting point, strict requirements, small steps, fast pace, more activities, change, quick feedback, and diligent correction.
The key to habit development is the first three days, and the decision is made in a month.
Parents should fully respect their children’s rights and allow children to play a master role in habit formation.
3, education through the habit of casting the casting character is like sailing on the sea, you must drive on the correct route, otherwise, the more the ship is in danger of sinking on the reef.
The quality of people determines the development direction of people.
One of the core tasks of home education is to train children to become real people.
But personality training is often difficult to follow in detail.
However, researchers have found that habit and personality complement each other. Habits affect personality, and personality also affects habits.
Decent, honest, responsible, caring, cooperative spirit, and efficiency can be cast through habits.
The third thing: to guide children to learn to attract children to love learning, to guide children to learn is an important responsibility of parents, but also the true charm of parents.
1. The child is tired of studying and has no reason to let it go, let it be unrestrained; manage it blindly;This approach will only make children more and more unwilling to learn.Children do not like to learn is only a superficial phenomenon, there must be a reason behind it: is it that they have not developed good learning habits?
Didn’t find what the child is best at?
Is there no scientific brain?
Is it the parents’ objection to the child’s “playing middle school” nature?
It is his child’s job to not have any study . Finding the reasons behind it can help the child to get out of the shadow of being tired of school.
2, children’s curiosity and learning potential can stimulate children’s lack of curiosity, usually not the influence of parents or strict requirements, but a series of children’s interests.
Interest (curiosity), dreams, sense of accomplishment, challenge, gratitude, struggle, anger, etc. are all the channels to dredge and inspire children’s curiosity.
For children, the so-called competitive advantage is the effective development of potential.
Mood, enlightenment, suggestion, reverie, motivation, and planning are the six principles that stimulate children’s learning potential.
Although there is no absolute “timetable” for potential development, there are steps to gradually establish goals, control emotions, sharpen the will, and focus on one point.
3, the child’s first test is a method of “love learning” is a substitute for “learning”, and “learning” is the guarantee of “love learning”, “learning” can “learn well”.
If the child wants to take the first test, they must master some decisive good methods, such as: completing according to plan, writing carefully, slowly reading textbooks, organizing wrong questions, taking notes at will, helping selflessly to classmates, efficient exams, freeComposition, etc.
Now many parents have stepped into a new error zone in the issue of educating their children, that is, blind faith, obedience, and even obsession with the so-called successful teaching experience of children, but these experiences are easy to hear and difficult to do.
Because they do not have “migration”, if they are just cloning and imitating, not only can they not attach to their children, but they are easy to “handan walk”, which is counterproductive.
The most useful real thing is to think and refine it.
Educating children is not as complicated as parents think, grasping the parent-child relationship, cultivating habits, and learning these three major things. Parents becoming outstanding parents and children becoming outstanding children are not distant dreams.